30 Days of Truth, Day 12 – Something you never get compliments on.
Hmm. My laundry skills? Ok seriously.
I never get complimented on my methods of parenting my teenager. Everyone thinks I”m too strict, too rigid and inflexible. I expect a lot. He has to have A’s & B’s to have a cell phone, he is expected to call- every time- and I force him to wear a bike helmet. He keeps his room clean, he’s pleasant and agreeable, and I would not accept any less.
Consequently? He’s wonderful. Truly. He says “I love you” every time he gets off the phone with me- even if he’s with his friends- and even since I told him he didn’t have to.
J- You know, you don’t have to say it if you don’t want- I know you love me- and I hope you know how much I love you.
A- It’s not a big deal, Mom.
I worry endlessly- I ask him constantly if he’s going to be getting into trouble with his friends. He laughs and guarantees me they’ll be playing video games. I know I’m overprotective- I know it’s not necessary- but when I look back at my life?
I wish someone had been that way for me. After all- he’s here because I was doing things I shouldn’t be 🙂 He is the best thing I will ever have done with my life. He is my greatest accomplishment- in a nutshell. I knew from the moment I saw the line turn pink that he was meant to be. I knew that day that I would guard his little life and his big future with every fiber of my being. Knowing full well that teenage pregnancy turns into a family legacy if you’re not careful.
Nobody would ever compliment me for being an easygoing understanding mother.
I’m a dictator. I’m the law. I double check your story. I call other parents. I read your messages- I check your coat pockets.
I’m the queen of overprotective mothers.
As a result, I have a wonderful teenager that tells me about his life, whose friends feel comfortable hanging out here but who also know to be respectful. He’s responsible (usually) and has a really kind heart. He’s a good friend, and a good brother…but he’s truly the very best son, any mom could ask for.