30 Days of Truth, Day 29

Day 29  – Something you hope to change about yourself. And why.

Uck. This 30 Days of truth thing is thankfully almost over… and admittedly I’ve put off the last few because they struck a little too close to home.

If I could change one thing about myself it would be my appetite for mean men. Definitely. Wouldn’t we all?

Put two identical men in front of me and I’ll pick the asshole every time. Blindfolded even. Give me a nice guy that returns phone calls, sends flowers and is honest and faithful… and I’ll go straight out of my mind.

A jerk is so much more…. hmmm… dangerous? Reckless? Enticing. If he makes me wonder where he is, lies to me, cheats on me, etc… I can’t do enough to please him. I should have a doormat tattooed on my forehead. Seriously.

It’s totally and completely ridiculous, and as a grown woman? A habit I sincerely need to break.

It’s tragic and pathetic to see a confident woman flail miserably with a douche bag for a boyfriend or husband. Truly tragic. We all have a gorgeous friend who wastes her brilliance on a bad man, and I will be the first person to tell her to cut her losses, remind her how wonderful she is and will her to love herself as much as everyone worthy of her love & devotion does.

I just don’t take my own advice. Tragic and mortifying, all rolled into one lovely little disaster.

Browsing blogs last night I found the best advice I’ve seen in AGES.

“Women who chase men only catch the slow ones”

No more chasing, no more assholes… and no more ignoring my own advice. How’s that for a worthy New Years Resolution?

6 thoughts on “30 Days of Truth, Day 29

  1. Robin

    This post reminds me of a saying from my mom’s generation.

    ‘Let him chase you until you catch him’

    I didn’t take her advice either. I dated the bad boys. And one of them in particular on and off for a long period of time. We’re talking years……..epically long.

    And then I met a nice guy and married him. I appreciated him so much more b/c of the bad boy. He’s not perfect by any means but I’m not interested in perfect. He’s lasted nearly 25 years and I’m not about to trade him in for a new model …. period. As Phoebe would say, ‘He’s my lobster’.

    Oh and the bad boy? He contacted me years ago and I felt it vital to my mental health to finally tell him how I felt after all these years. I vented, exhaled and then thanked him because if I hadn’t ‘experienced’ him, I wouldn’t be the strong woman I am today.

    You know the drill.

    I do enjoy reading your blog. I may even post a comment again one day. Stay tuned.

  2. That advice about changed my year too. I think this is a great New Year’s resolution! I, too, have been attracted to men that don’t treat me well. Although, I am lucky to usually only really fall for decent men (although I do waste some time with the assholes). My sisters aren’t as lucky – they fall for the very worst of men. We all have “Daddy Issues” as we say. But just because you recognize it doesn’t make it better… you have to stop the cycle. And I’m no longer chasing men – this quote is burned in my brain!

    • It just may make the cut for this Tattoo Wednesday. I have a wicked bad man habit…. so thank you from the bottom of my poor tortured heart, I needed that bit of wisdom more than you will ever know 🙂

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