I’ve been doing really well lately, dusting myself off and swallowing the lump in my throat.


Something changes when you get hit in the heart by something incredible.

I’ve been used to stupid. Cheaters are a bore at this point. You have to get up awfully early in the morning to disappoint me after the litany of bad choices I’ve been determined to believe in over the years.

It’s a different situation when he’s noble and good. When you struggle to find a reason to hate him, it makes letting go of loving him a million times harder. I can’t imagine hating him but continuing to jump off the same cliff when you know it’s dangerous, is unhealthy.

I talk myself through it all, until I run into him and then it’s all over. You want what you want and for the record, your body is a damn traitor. Hugging him goodbye sets every nerve of mine, on end. I can feel his heart beating against my chest, his erection against my thigh and I want to light fire to every last good intention I have. The way this man smells could sell a trillion dollars worth of laundry detergent, soap or cologne. Whatever the hell it is, I can smell him on my skin after I walk away and I’m torn between tears and masturbating.

This beautiful heartache of mine has left me shook and I’m hateful and grateful in the same breath.

So I clicked on Bumble… and in minutes, I was given a menu of acceptable men to choose from. Sorry fellas, but I need a good volunteer to help me shake this off and remember how good it feels to be a girlfriend. Yes, he’s probably destined for rebound-ville, but I need help because I’m failing miserably on my own.

I wake up to a dozen “Good Morning, Beautiful” texts. I’m not bragging- it’s played out and I’m not impressed. Anybody who sends that generic tripe has a little half -moon by his name. I get that some of the women demand that stuff, but I’m not one of them. Call me when you want to tell me something. Show me your high school hockey pictures. Teach me how to fix the lawnmower.

Show me your man skills or move aside so I can learn another skill on my own. You’re either on my side, by my side or in my way.

He may have broken my heart and made every other man pale before him in my eyes… but he raised my standards and made it far less likely that it’ll happen again.

That has to count for something.

Or at least I hope it does someday… because for now… I’m craving every millimeter of him and there isn’t a man in the world that compares.


We’re internet dating to get over this shit. Enough already.

Brace yourselves. I’ve done this with 100% failure before. It’s always funny, but it isn’t always fun.

This morning I have breakfast with Jason, 45, a landscape architect with a fleet of tractors. (See? I’m getting smarter.)

Thursday I have dinner plans with Trevor, a 6’7″ college basketball player. He’s far too young and I should be worried about God striking me down with a big fat bolt of lightning for this one. However… I have fences to repair and all he’d have to do is stand there. Don’t judge me, a farmer’s gotta do what she’s gotta do.

andddd Saturday night after my little dumpling goes to bed, I have a dessert date with another obscenely handsome youngster. Clint is only a year older than my firstborn and I can feel Santa Claus pull his naughty list out every time I read an email from this kid.

This all reminds me of one glaring, obvious fact that I keep trying to kick back under the rug.

It’s not that I’m not good at this. I’m friendly, pretty and fun to be around. I’m an incredible cook, grow a million fun things to eat and will ruin a man sexually for other women. I have worked hard to be very proud of the woman I am and to deserve a man equally as exceptional.

I’ve worked far too hard to throw myself at someone who doesn’t realize how lucky he’d be to catch me.

SO cheers, friends.

… and …. sigh…

Here’s to getting my ass up, dusting it off and wiping those pathetic tears away. After all, I’ve got old men to disappoint, youngsters to corrupt and a smile that shouldn’t be wasted on the stupidity of a scared man.

30 Days of Truth, Day 21


Day 21 — (scenario) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do?

Well I’d die a million deaths on my way to her side, of course. Just reading today’s prompt makes me nauseous and weepy.

I cannot imagine my life without my red-haired security blanket. I don’t want anything to do with it if she’s not part of the plan.

The last 6 months have been some of the saddest in my life. My poor Fancy has had to listen to me cry into more glasses of champagne than I even want to think about. She knows when I need her and I’m hardly surprised anymore when I hear her text come whistling in just as I’m reaching the end of my rope.

F- Bubbles?

J- Absolutely.

I’d be far more content if she had a full security detail and a driver. A nice impenetrable tank to safeguard my most precious friend.

Some people become so important in your heart that you can’t remember how you lived without them before. She’s that person for me. She’s been there through it all and if anything ever happened to her, my heart would never survive the loss.

How could it? She’s my compass, and I’d never find my way back out without her.

Now enough of that horrible thought. Call your best friend and tell him/her how much you love them. Life is too short to swallow your feelings or risk leaving things unsaid.