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Stupidity Payment

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As the clock ticks down to Baby Q’s arrival, I have a million things left to get planted. I watered for hours yesterday to loosen the soil and today is the big day of mass planting.

However… I made the fatal error of roto-tilling barefoot last week… and destroyed my left baby toe. Everything was going along perfectly… the sun was shining, the birds were singing, and I was approaching my last pass of the heirloom tomato garden, when I hit a buried plastic pipe, the tiller yanked forward and I stepped right on the pipe I’d just sharpened with the rotating steel blades.

Ya know when something hurts so badly so immediately that you know you’ve really done some damage? Yeah… that’s what it was like.

I flipped the choke on the tiller and stood in shocked silence for a moment, immediately gripped by a stress-contraction. Even little Quinn knew to remind me to go inside, immediately. It takes a lot to make me cry, and I hobbled/waddled over to the outside water faucet to rinse off the dirt and survey the damage. Icy cold water hit like a second stab from the pipe and the water ran red for too long. I knew I was in trouble and I knew I needed to go inside and have my Little Red take a look.

Therein lies the real problem of hurting the bottom of your foot when you’re 9 months pregnant. You can’t even see it to know how bad it is.

I tracked blood across the patio and in through the kitchen, and started to panic a little when I saw how much there still was. I’m days away from delivery and my first concern, as always; is with my children.

Little Red followed me worriedly to the bathroom and had me lift my foot. Her eyes widened and she told me we needed to go to the emergency room. She’s not a kid that worries unnecessarily, so when she says it’s time to go, it’s solid advice. Being the impatient person I am, I wrapped a trash bag around my poor foot and hobbled out to the car. She insisted on calling people, I insisted she get in and buckle up.

Now the funny thing about being so roundly pregnant, is that people MOVE when you walk in to the emergency room. It was the shortest trip I’ve ever had through the ER and the most pleasant as well. They not only move, they take care to make sure you’re resting comfortably and don’t need anything else they never offer you when you are not with child.

I’m not a fan of needles. I don’t like shots at all. I am anti-vaccination…. but I know I’m due a tetanus shot. My darling daughter is raising an eyebrow at me as I negotiate my way out of one until after the baby. I’ve been with my attorney all afternoon and some of his argumentative nature has clearly worn off. My daughter is shaking her head at me while the tiny daughter in my belly kicks happily.

My doc walks in and smiles at me, joining in the head shaking.

D- Flip flops?

J- No… worse. Barefoot.

D- In the dirt?

J- Oh you haven’t lived if you’ve never walked barefoot through the freshly tilled soil… but yeah… perhaps wait until you’re done tilling.

We went through the options and I could see the loophole he was offering.

D- Well you’re really looking at a serious amount of stitches to put all these layers back together. It’s also going to hurt pretty bad for me to numb it.

I see him eye my belly warily and know a window worth climbing through when I see one.

J- It seems to just lie together nicely when you don’t mess with it, couldn’t it just heal on it’s own with a little love and care?

My daughter is wide eyed and her mouth is hanging open.

D- I think it just might. I could glue most of it to hold it while it heals, and you could keep it bandaged, clean and dry and it may heal even better that way.

J- Ohhh…. clean and dry may pose a problem. Could I wrap a bag around it to finish gardening?

D- Actually yes, that’s a great idea! Just make sure to take a lot of breaks and keep it from getting sweaty. It also appears to be broken… so that may slow you down.

I assure him I’ll do my best, the lovely nurse comes in to clean and bandage it, and we are on our way back home in under two hours. I walked in to the house, mopped up the blood, wrapped a bag around my freshly bandaged foot and headed back out to the garden… while my disgruntled teenager followed me, chastising all the way.

The garden got mulched, the beets got watered and I managed to ruin my new bandage in under an hour while my little nurse clucked her disapproval.

Old habits die hard… but at least I’m forced to keep my shoes on these days. The garden is close to being completely planted and despite my ever-growing baby belly- I’ve learned how to reapply the dressing in the last week…

Today: the potatoes get planted, tomorrow the flowers and hopefully in the next two weeks: a tiny baby girl will join us to make our family complete ♥

The Last Straw

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Unfortunately my settings on one of these stupid dating sites has it chiming on my phone every time an email comes in, which is a lot. I finally sat down yesterday to change the settings in hopes of putting an end to the infernal distraction.

Success… oh and 22 new emails. I open the first one…

D- Hi.

That’s all. I see so many of these I just have to wonder what the hell these guys are thinking. You’re establishing contact with someone for the first time, hoping to spurn a response.

And all you’ve fucking got is Hi? Hello? Sup? Yo? Hey? I’ve seen them all and I never respond… but then you have to be a freak to ilicit a response from me because I’m only in it for the story at this point.

The playground is shut down for remodeling… and I’m a bored woman as a result. lol… I open the second email and it only gets better.

S-

4/28/2012 11:50:37 AM

Let me guess.. You found my profile more than a bit on the vulgar side.. Perhaps a bit disturbing as
well. you must have had a few glasses of wine to have even clicked on it.. I know your type.. Your a
mile above me.. And your clearly more than a bit too classy for my common ass.. but I might just
surprise you… And it’s not like I would expect you to tell your friends about me 😉

This guy has emailed me three times, and frankly; he’s repulsive. He’s not my type, I would really be being mean if I dated him.

What really stuns me, is that they make this assumption about me based on one picture, and one paragraph. Enough to insult me for not being interested in them.

They say women are crazy? Oh no. The penis-clad species is equally as crazy, if not more so, because they’re entitled to their jealousy. We’re supposed to understand that boys can be boys and “well you know he’s a man… he’s bound to be protective.

Turn those tables and you know what they call that girl? A date crasher. A stalker. A bunny boiler. Fatal attraction.

He’s protective, masculine, he just loves you a lot.

No. He’s a stalker and if I come up missing, check his house.

Yikers. A stalker is a stalker, is a stalker- and this guy is getting his panties in a bunch because he’s emailed me three times and I haven’t responded, but he can see that I viewed his profile.

Imagine him in real life. He’s the guy who stalks you daily, the one who wants to read your emails, look at your phone and account for every minute in your day and who you came in contact with. He “just stops by” and “just stays for the weekend”. Allowing this guy into your life is like petting a raccoon. They can imprint on you and follow you for life. They come in through windows, dog doors, chimneys. If they love you- they will do anything to be next to you.

It reminds me of fungus- no thanks.

The next email is a perfect example of why I’d really love to meet a nice woman every now and again. If anything inspires me to switch teams… it’s this guy.

USMC-

USMC

4/8/2012 12:18:29 AM
Wanna Chat
USMC

4/24/2012 10:59:16 PM
All girls like me I was in the military
USMC

4/24/2012 11:11:28 PM
And I have a very large penis

Yeah… he said that.

Like he actually expects a response finally that says “Oh well in that case, let’s chat” <eyeroll>

I don’t think I can even handle these internet retards any more. I may be officially ruined for men entirely.

Disgusted with the species… I signed out of the craziness that is meeting a date online.

I decided to make dinner and invite family over. My mama, her fabulous boyfriend, Sober One Kenobe and Mr. Man Card. My little princess.

Fresh pesto tortellini, asparagus, a green salad & garlic bread. Eclairs for dessert… with a glass of wine, around the kitchen table we’d pulled into the greenhouse and filled with spring flowers. It was a twinkly perfect evening full of the stuff that feels right. Family & friends and great food, laughing around the table in the light of white lights strung around the inside of the greenhouse with the smell of little tomatoes and flowers growing.

Internet dating cheapens what it’s supposed to be. You’re supposed to see a cute guy and smile. He’s supposed to ask for your number and you’re supposed to have dinner or something in this sort of circumstance. The twinkle lights are optional but I’d say they’re worth a few bonus points.

It’s supposed to be as good as dinner with your friends and family- it’s supposed to leave you smiling the next morning, washing a stack of dishes and throwing the tablecloth in the washer.

Internet dating is depressing- and that’s not what I’m looking for.

I can do without the creepy stalking oversharers.

I officially quit my internet presence as potential prey. I climbed out of the mud puddle.

……..and I feel cleaner already 🙂

Proof God loves me…

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Working through heartache fucking sucks… and this is no exception.

I’m not sleeping well, and it’s ten times worse when I have the day off. Yaaaaaaawn… and I’m exhausted.

If I can sleep past 4, it’s a miracle. My feet hit the cold hardwood floor at 4:05 this morning. Ugh. It’s a light snow/rain mix and I’ll go crazy if I sit here in the dark empty house. I miss my kids, I’m lonely, argh… frankly I’m miserably unfulfilled and goddamn tired of it.

Tie on my running shoes. Throw on his sweatshirt. Pout.

The first hundred feet are the hardest for me when the weather sucks. After I’m hot and struggling to breathe, cursing my cigarettes and the fact I live where it CAN snow- I’m fine.

But those first hundred feet?

I bargain with myself.

“This is insane. Why are you even out here? WTF? The perc to being single is NOT running in shitty weather. That’s why God made satellite television and knitting.”

and I fight my laziness with fact…

“Whatever- looking good is the best revenge and he’s going to feel ten times worse looking at you blissfully happy and burn the house down hot than he would if you ran into him carrying cupcakes and knitting needles. Healthy vices turn into healthy habits. KEEP GOING”

Being in a bad mood only makes me run further, faster… and the music is so loud in my ears that my eardrums may burst before my body gives out.

Nicki keeps me going and I didn’t realize how far I’d ran until I realize how wet my calves are. I turn around, started heading for home and it started snowing harder… and the wind started to howl.

I’ve gone far enough to feel good about my little running temper tantrum, now I just want to blink and wiggle my nose and be home. No dice, I’m at least an hour away.

So I face the ugly irritants in my life that are really weighing on me.

I can’t be mad at Thomas any more. He’s ruined so many things and lied to so many people. I’m one on a list and if anything, that’s what hurts the most. I hope he finds his conscience, and I hope he makes amends for the hearts he’s broken and will continue to break. Actually when I’m out running in the slush, I wish the worst of the gold-digging con-artists on him. That’s what he really deserves.

My bad habit is just too damn unreliable.

I have the nicest guy totally and completely stupid crazy about me- and I keep him at arms length because I am not ready for that. I prefer a bad habit to a regular one.

I’m out of the pool, and trying not to take advantage of someone’s feelings, purely to make myself feel better. I’m fighting my codependency and winning- how bout that? 🙂

Running is perfect for working out the worlds problems, or your own, and getting some much needed exercise too.

I’m incredibly burned out and facing my kids birthdays just around the corner, something that breaks my heart a little each year. It’s gone by so fast… and I miss their infancy. Life was so much more simple when I only had to worry about breastfeeding and sewing Halloween costumes.

I run around the corner and slip… oh yes… slushy muddy goodness, and my hands covered in the same. Uck. No more running in slush… this absolutely sucks so badly. I’m pretty close to home though.

I decide to walk the rest of the way, even though the smart thing to do would be to run, because I’m freezing. I turn the music down a little and fight off any sad feelings looking at the empty road ahead of me.

and a car pulls up behind me and I hear a voice say…

H- Jen?

I don’t recognize the voice and I turn around and strain to see who it is in the early morning dusky darkness.

OH NO IT’S NOT.

It’s the extremely hot customer I crush on…. think Pierce Brosnan and David Beckham combined. Beautiful AND delicious…. and very much the last person on earth I want to drive up behind me right now.

H- Hey hop in, you look like a drowned rat.

Well there goes any romantic notion that I was somehow making the wet early morning runner thing, look hot. I’m struggling to get out of the threat of increased closeness.

J- No, but thanks- my house is just up ahead.

H- I know, I’ve seen you out there gardening before. Hop in and let me give you a lift home or I’ll worry all day.

He’s in a suit, clearly on his way to Spokane for work this morning and looking every bit the GQ fantasy in my mind. I’m in running pants, capilene and my “Real girls eat meat” tshirt. Dear God in heaven…

J- I’m wet and dirty… you don’t want me to even sit in your car right now.

H- Wet and dirty huh? Now I insist. I have a towel if you’re worried, but I really don’t care. Hop in!

I’m wondering how obvious it would be to use the edge of my soaking wet shirt to clean up my mascara, which I can assume is smudgy… and I climb in. Omg… he’s so clean and dry.

And I am literally a drowned rat. He drives past my driveway and I point and he smiles.

H- I’m going for coffee right around the corner and I insist on taking you for some too. You look frozen and your teeth are chattering.

A 16 oz. cup heaven, with a side of charm and chivalry. He dropped me off and I sent him on his way with one of my chocolate peanut butter cupcakes and a smile.

I look like hell, but my cupcakes make gay men propose to me.

Not what I expected on my morning run this morning, and somewhat mortifying… but a lovely beginning to my day off.

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